In my last post I talked about why asking if something is normal isn’t actually helpful.
A much more helpful question to ask is…
WHAT DO YOU MEAN?
The brain likes things in neat categories. It likes to keep things simple. It likes to know and to predict and to be right. It doesn’t like not knowing, being uncertain, out of control, or wrong. Sounds obvious, right? But actually, we don’t realize how many instances in our daily lives are impacted by the brain’s desire for certainty. So many decisions are made because of the meaning our brain assumes or the category it puts something in just so we could feel more at ease.
WHAT IS “FIT” IN THERAPY?
How do you pick a therapist? What does it mean to be a “good fit” in therapy?
If you’ve ever looked into therapy, you probably heard the term “fit,” but do you really know what it means? What I found in my NYC psychology practice is that there are actually four different types of fit in therapy and you can prioritize them based on your own needs.
THE TWO BIGGEST MYTHS ABOUT MINDFULNESS
Many people falsely believe that to be mindful means either to be focused on one thing (and just that one thing) or to be aware of everything all the time. In this article I will explain why neither of those is actually possible nor helpful. I will also show you what mindfulness actually looks like in a super short video.
STOP TRYING TO BE HAPPY AND LEARN TO BE CONTENT INSTEAD
Being content doesn’t sound very sexy. Why should anyone strive to be “just” content?
Because being happy all the time is not realistic. Happiness is an emotion. Just like anxiety, sadness, excitement, anger, etc. All emotions are transient. Meaning, they fluctuate, they become more and less intense. They are manageable and tolerable, even when they feel extremely distressing, unpleasant, uncomfortable, or even unbearable. The truth is, if it’s an emotion, you can bear it.
